Sunday, August 23, 2009

Where Did The Time Go?

There is the time of our every day moments, the time of watching the seasons change and another year gone by. It is the bigger moments of time that has me thinking, the time of yesterday.

Just yesterday I was flying to California after work to visit my nephews or a turnaround trip literally getting off one flight to catch another to help my sister come home for a visit with 3 little boys. Today those little boys are young men. While Zack was here we had a wonderful time as I always do with my nieces and nephews. The visit also left me a little melancholy wondering where did all the time go.

The other day as Gary and I were driving, tears started to fall they were happy and sad tears all in one. As I realized Zack is not the little boy who ran to me with his arms outstretch wanting to be picked up and held, laying his head on my shoulder. I saw him for the first time as a young adult, and God willing, someday will have his own family. I said to Gary it is a bittersweet moment, and how I miss the time of yesterday. As the kids grow I feel as if I am on a raft, floating further away trying to hold on (I am a visual person).

As I was coming to terms my youngest nephew grew up overnight, it dawned on me this week my youngest niece is going off to college.
Eighteen years ago was magical to be at the birth of Malissa, watching as she made her entrance into the world. As Malissa goes off to college there is a part of me selfishly wishing she would stay nearby, but I know there is a whole lot of world out there waiting for her to discover, to make her mark and to touch other lives as she has touched mine.

I have truly been blessed to have nieces and nephews that are not only compassionate, loving, caring and respectful young adults, but they enjoy spending time with a silly aunt. I am very PROUD of all five, plus one great-nephew and deeply honored to be their aunt, a role I never took for granted. As they all begin to spread their wings, I hope they will continue to know I’m only a heartbeat away. Forever my heart will be filled with love and admiration for each of them.
Since I have no control over time or a magic stopwatch, I couldn't let my niece go off to college without a fresh batch of chocolate chip cookies to share. Remember, this is the cookie jar I had everyone sign a couple of months ago at her high school graduation party. Thank goodness the oven fairy kept an eye on it so it didn't crack or break.
Do you ever wish you had a magic stopwatch? Or is this one of those silly aunt moments?


Enjoy your golden day my friends!
xoxo

29 comments:

Ina in Alaska said...

Your niece and nephew are just gorgeous and they are sure to have wonderful memories of your kindness and thoughtfulness. Yes, where does the time go?

As you can probably tell, I never did hear from the cruise visitors, so I will be curious to know if they ever made it to Anchorage.... Have a lovely week, dear Joyce xoxo

Frau said...

I know how you feel..it's weird to have them grew up and live like adults instead of the little children we remember them as. It seems as life goes by in a blink of an eye....!

kks said...

well said! i look at my nieces and nephews and think...i can't be this old already....:)
i would be happy to give a behind the scene tour of the vet school to your nieces friend!
they can always contact me through you...
have a golden week J!
xoxo
and let me know if you come up to madison!

Debra said...

What a wonderful, caring Auntie you are. And how lucky they are to have you. And yes- you're lucky to have them too. There is a bond between you and those lovely children-and that is so special. I know just what you mean about the time passing so quickly. Wish we could slow it all down. Lovely post dear Joyce.

Kwana said...

You have a wonderful day. What a beautiful niece and nephew you have. Time does go so quickly. They are blessed to have you to love them.

Kotori said...

Oh it flies by way too fast! Your post is perfect for this morning as I'm lamenting that Jack is starting 1st grade...

Linda at Lime in the Coconut! said...

Oh that brought tears to my eyes...not only because I am really noticing how vaporous time is when it comes to growing kids. B

But also what a loving and wonderful Aunt you are. It is SO important for kids (teens) to have other grounded caring adults in their life.

You make a huge impact.

And that cookie jar...SOOOO thoughtful. So You!

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Your question...Where did time go? is one I ask almost daily....enjoyed your blog and will return often....Have a great week.

Francesca said...

I don't know where the time goes, or why it's in such a rush. I can only hope we spend it well, and keep our raft afloat. I'm sure that no matter how far your nieces and newphews go, they'll always come back to see their aunt.

pve design said...

My husband and I attended a funeral of a dear friend's father just yesterday. He was an amazing man, and he had every detail of his funeral planned. There were 10 speakers who spoke so affectionately, some teary, some humorous and some just straight from the heart. I thought, life goes fast and the indelible mark that this man made seems more than one could ever possibly fit into a life-time, let alone a cookie jar. It made me think, how would I want to be remembered - and I think your niece and nephew are just so blessed to have you as an Auntie to want to stop time.

As a Mom, I too feel that same sweet and sour, I want them to thrive, to make mistakes, to learn to get up and to be strong, yet I want them to know that there is a tender heart always here for them, no matter how far they roam.

You are a wonderful Aunt, Friend and time stopper.
You embrace every second! I love that!!
pve

annechovie said...

You sounds like the best aunt, Joyce! What a blessing you have been in their lives. Love your cookie jar idea, too! XO

Slices of Beauty... said...

My nephews and niece are all still too young, but get the feeling!

Cris Siqueira said...

oh dear joyce
what a beautiful post!!
yes, time pass by so fast, how could this be?
well, i don't have nieces or nephews but i had little cousins that they are growing up so fast.
my youngest cousin, she's going to college next year in february and i still remember when she was in kindegarten vacations and me and my sisters (all teeneagers) babysitting her while her parents were working. now she's a young woman and sometimes i look at her and ask "why did you grown up?", i really miss when she was a litte girl! but i can't wait to have my kids and to my sisters have their kids to wacht them grow up too!!

and what a coincidence, i made chocolates chips cookies too! i still don't try the onion rings, i'm waiting for a day that my sisters and i go to the pool and drink a little beer and eat some snacks like that!

have a great week joyce and best of luck to your niece in this new time of her life!

state of bliss said...

Dear Joyce, I am so moved by your words! I think I know what you feel- I, too, sometimes would love to have the power to stom the time. Whenever I look at my baby, I feel happy but sad. Happy, because she grows healthy and sad because she grows too fast! Sometimes I feel that I won't even blink and she will already be leaving home for collage...

Wonderful post. You have precious nices and nephews you can truly be proud of.

Lots of hugs and kisses,
Kasia
xoxo

cindy said...

no, i would agree. your post is so loving and heartfelt. they're lucky to have such a wonderful aunt. the cycle of life can be bittersweet, but as long as it continues it's all good. sending you hugs. xo, c

Joanna Jenkins said...

What a beautiful story! I too am an Auntie that cherishes her nieces and nephews. Now that two are (gulp!) married and two more are in college (6 to go!) I think about the hands of time and a "magic stopwatch A LOT!

The cookie jar signing was a FABULOUS idea!

Thanks for sharing. You are a gifted writer!

xo

Nicole Marie said...

that cookie can is such a cute idea!

and thank you joyce for always sending such encouraging uplifting words. i read your comments and they make me smile and always put a little more pep in my step ;)

n a t s u m i said...

Lovely post! I have a niece and nephew and they are still very young but I can imagine they will grow up fast...

likeschocolate said...

You are really thoughtful! It is kind of sad how time just seems to fly by. Before I know it my babies will no longer be babies.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

I always think about this...time...it just....passes without us even knowing. Then it's been a week, a year, our life?!

trinsch said...

they look and sound like beautiful people, you nieces and nephews. it was very touching post and i am sure they know and appreciate you, the "silly" aunt.

and yes, sometimes i'd like a stop watch as well. as i grow older it seems that days and years can just pass by over night.

MODsquad said...

I'm positive they think you are the best auntie ever!!

A Day That is Dessert said...

Indeed, where does the time go? Your niece and nephew are fortunate to have an aunt like you. xoxo

Laura @ the shorehouse. said...

That cookie jar is still one of the coolest ideas I've seen in the blog world. Love it!

And again I say...you are an amazing aunt! How lucky your family is to have you. :-)

Kathy said...

Ah, time marches on doesn't it? Every time we pass little boys playing soccer, I picture my boys out on the field. I just look at every different stage of my life as a new chapter...a new adventure. I miss things that were, but love every chapter of my life's book so I don't spend too much time looking back. I prefer to live for today and enjoy this very moment.

preppyplayer said...

What a great idea! You are a wonderful auntie.
Adopt me!

simplesong said...

love, love the cookie jar. i know what you mean about time flying ... it all goes by so fast ... too fast! thanks for sharing such a sweet post.

sunnymama said...

Oh, I love that cookie jar! What a great aunt you are :)

Shana said...

Wow, I really liked your blog header, and this cookie jar idea just had me looking at it for a while, loving the idea!

You do sound like a very thoughtful aunt..!

greetings from Pakistan.

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